suck it up, ac. work on getting that heart a little colder.

perhaps – just perhaps – you didn’t realize how insane this coworker was at the time you linked her. and it’s possible that maybe just maybe her syco reactions to email and other communications are what made her no longer a part of your company?

maybe it’s possible, just maybe, it might be possible maybe that she’s one of the many candy ass, low performing mutants that think they should get congratulated for coming into work. by chance, just perhaps by chance, was your “strong personality” mistaken for being honest and candid?

and if in fact, you did post this because you do feel bad or are “having a hard time dealing”, then could we ever really ever just ever tag you as a “workplace asshole”? is there a book i could get on amazon to help me assess this?

i mean, let’s face it. this chick is clearly in love with you.

and if you were in an intimate relationship with her, i hope to god! your wife, never, ever, ever, ever, finds out about it.

Suck it up, deal with it and move on.

Rather than trying to “get back”, perhaps you should reflect on why someone had an obviously caustic reaction to your networking attempt.

Perhaps – just perhaps – it’s possible, and you just don’t realize it, that you bring out the worst in some people? Maybe it’s possible that something you said or did really hurt your co-worker? Maybe it’s possible that you’re one of those people who makes co-workers feel bad about themselves, decreases productivity and induces qualified employees to quit, regardless of your individual effectiveness.

You self proclaim to be a “strong personality”. Perhaps your perception is misplaced and others perceive you as what’s termed a “workplace asshole” (Go look up the book on Amazon). The fact that you’ve taken the time to post this message online and solicit comments, rather than letting go, indicates that you’re having a hard time dealing with mere online blip.

Lastly, please refrain from thinking this person was in “love with you”. It comes of as a manifestation of a rather juvenile defensive reaction, and perhaps is the kind of attitude that elicited the above reaction in the first place.

PS : If you were actually in an intimate relationship with him/her, remember that ex-g/f, ex-b/f dont usually make good networking connections. There’s a reason you’re not in that relationship anymore.